Hey love. I know you want to give women everything we desire. I also know that us women's natural lean toward expansion can leave you feeling like you're not enough. But here's the thing...
A woman's desire for more doesn’t diminish your worth. It only amplifies it.
Meaning, your partner cannot produce feelings of unworthiness within you, unless those feelings are already there.
Now, I know this can be uncomfortable to hear. But it's the truth. What you give, you will receive ten fold. This is not just the nature of the feminine, this is the nature of reality. So if you're mad and blaming her, well, you're actually in denial of life itself.
So yeah, my love, it’s not necessarily that she’s trying to ‘fix’ or change you — she’s simply reflecting what’s inside of you, what’s been dormant, what’s been unresolved. And if there’s an old wound around worthiness, whether it’s rooted in the conditional love you may have received growing up — maybe from your mother, a caregiver, or others — or behaviors like people-pleasing, she’s going to shine a big ol' bright light on those wounds. And that might leave you feeling defeated, frustrated, like you're falling short, or even like you need to dissolve the partnership because you perceive her as a threat. But these reactions are just that — re-actions. They’re deeply embedded coping mechanisms that often show up as defensiveness, shutting down, or withdrawing. They’re not a reflection of your truth, but rather the scars of old wounds still unhealed.
Her innate desire for expansion does not need to translate as a failure on your part. She does not need to be perceived as a threat. Instead, you can choose to see it for what it actually is... a gift! An invitation to heal and to grow alongside her. To step into a fuller version of yourself. To address old hurts you might’ve buried and to seize the opportunity to rise.
Ask yourself, ‘What’s coming up for me right now? Is there something unresolved within me I need to look at?’ When you’re able to do that, you'll start seeing her (and all of reality) accurately — as a mirror of yourself. You’ll begin to view expansion as inherent to your being, not as something that opposes it.
But remember, this is just one part of the journey. The dynamics between masculine and feminine energy are rich and complex, and there’s so much more to uncover. This post touches on just one aspect of how expansion can trigger feelings of unworthiness, but the truth is, relationship dynamics are layered. Each of us carries unique wounds, beliefs, and coping mechanisms that influence how we show up in our partnerships.
This is why it's so important to do the deeper work of understanding yourself — to explore those layers, heal old wounds, and shift the patterns that no longer serve you. That’s where Radical Love comes in. In this space, we unpack the dynamics at play in your relationships, uncover what’s holding you back, and transform those patterns into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. Whether you’re doing the work on your own or alongside a partner, Radical Love provides the tools and support to help you break free from old cycles and step into more authentic, aligned love.
So if you’re ready to dive deeper, heal, and grow into the fullest version of yourself and your relationships, I’d be honored to guide you on this transformative journey.
*And men, stay tuned! This post is the first in a year-long blog series called '2025: Year of the Masculine,' where we’ll explore the rise and maturation of masculine energy, the healing of old wounds, and the journey to living in alignment with your highest potential.
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