Hi loves! Let's talk pleasure cause well, it comes up A LOT in my mentoring sessions with clients and it's kind of a cornerstone to our vitality and wellness. One of the issues many of us face is this deep desire to experience fulfilling pleasure and connection, yet for most of us this feels unattainable, as if our sexual energy and ability to connect is blocked, inhibited and shamed in some way.
And if I'm honest, for most of us it is. Why? Because from a very young age we are taught to shut down the sexual energy in our body. And on top of shutting down our sexual energy, we are also conditioned to shut down our emotional body (ie. “Get up! Don’t be silly, stop crying!”).
Reality is, the extent to which we can access and feel the so-called “negative” emotions (pain, disappointment, grief) is the extent to which we can access and feel the “positive” emotions (joy, pleasure, peace). Just as light cannot be experienced without darkness, we cannot experience the depth of our pleasure without fully experiencing our pain.
Unfortunately A LOT of us feel numb to the full range of emotions that we move through on a daily basis. Most of us are literally walking around in the world going through the motions of being a human being without actually knowing what it is to be one… by feeling and expressing our emotions. And the ramifications of this are often that we also feel numb in our sex center. This is because the energy is stuck and stagnant in our entire body and nothing is flowing, hence we experience a limited range pleasure and sensation.
So, the short version of a solution to numbness and blocked sexual energy is to begin exploring our emotional body and learning to express emotion in a healthy way. Because when we begin to unblock years of shut-down, suppressed emotion in our body, the energy flows with more ease, which means our sexual energy begins to light-en up and flow better too!
I could go on about this for days but space here is limited. However, if you’re interested in learning more, come join me in Radical Love, an intimate container for those seeking conscious relationships and sacred sex!
Artist // @francoishenrigalland
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