You're done with a pattern (or close) when you could care less if it happens again.
When you're not hyper-focused on preventing it from happening again.
When you trust that you can navigate through it, should it happen again.
“I’m done with this pattern” — I hear it all the time. In client sessions. In conversations with loved ones. In public. And I've said it myself many times. But here’s what Spirit has shown me...
The constant need to declare we’re done is a shield. A protective armor, with its chain woven from fear — the fear of feeling the pain we haven’t fully felt yet — the pain tied to the original trauma.
And I get it. I do. But this armor, it doesn't work. It doesn't protect us. In fact, it blocks us by leading us back into separation.
So, what actually works? What truly shifts the dynamic? What does it really mean to be done with a pattern — in a way that feels freeing, instead of fearful?
It’s knowing that…
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The pattern was never the problem.
The real issue was the lack of safety and trust with those you were dependent on as a child. But that’s no longer your reality. You have the ability to create safety and trust for yourself now. -
There’s purpose in pain.
If you truly want to heal, you have to be willing to feel the pain, understand its purpose, and grow through it. -
Patterns repeat until we’ve felt the depth of the pain we’ve suppressed.
Healing isn’t about avoiding or denying the pain. It’s about allowing yourself to feel it fully, in a safe space, and realizing you can handle it. -
It’s okay to make the same mistake multiple times.
With each cycle, you’re learning. You’re getting closer to healing. And every time, you free yourself of your pattern(s) a little more. -
You can trust yourself, should the shit hit the fan.
The real work is in building self-trust — knowing that no matter what happens, you are capable of navigating it, learning from it, and continuing to grow. -
You don’t have to be perfect and "healed" to attract high, conscious love.
We all have our stories, our pasts, our scars. It’s not about erasing them. It’s about loving yourself through them, imperfections and all. (A partner will reflect this or they won't... regardless, you always maintain the power to decide what to do with that information.) -
You can still experience trauma patterns in a healthy, loving relationship.
Healing isn’t about perfection or escaping discomfort. It’s about trusting yourself enough to navigate through the uncomfortable moments, knowing they don’t define you. -
With each cycle of a pattern, you are getting closer to healing it.
Healing isn’t linear loves. It’s a journey. But every time the pattern shows up, you’re offered another chance to break through it.
When you arrive at the place of truly being done with a pattern, there’s no longer any fear. No more hyper-focus on “preventing” it or declaring you're “done” over and over. You just know — deep in your bones — that you can handle whatever comes your way.
The armor falls away, and what remains is trust. Trust in yourself. Trust in the process. Trust that each cycle is simply another opportunity to grow. And with each step forward, the pattern loses its grip.
You are the one who creates safety. You are the one to trust. And you are the one who navigates it all.
So drop the false armor. Claim your pain. Allow it to serve as power. Forgive your unconsciousness.
Healing is a journey, and every part of it - the highest highs and the lowest lows - is leading you closer to the peace, love, and freedom that is your birthright.
I love you.
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If you’re ready to move beyond "I'm done with this pattern", and into deep embodied self-trust and safety, Inheritance welcomes you.
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